Comments on Lessons from a Recovering DoorMat: No More Long Term Disappointment!

Mattina, that the past, just things! You have a gr...

2009-12-14T23:09:25.531-05:00

Mattina, that the past, just things! You have a great husband and that's what matters most. Maybe God is trying to teach you what's most important, not the trappings but a good man. If you focus on looking forward, you can put the wedding behind you and enjoy your life. I fully understand why you were disappointed but it's over. You have a wonderful life ahead of you. if you ask God for support in moving forward you'll get it.

What a wonderful blog. I just stumbled upon it as...

2009-12-10T17:12:43.349-05:00

What a wonderful blog. I just stumbled upon it as I was searching on-line for ideas on getting over disappointment. Long story short - I just got married in Sept (actually a few days before this post). I was 37 on my wedding so you can imagine the expectations I had. Throughout the process I kept telling myself to embrace the imperfections because you so often hear that weddings don't go as planned and I desperately wanted to be the bride to look passed the unexpected. I am typically the person that can find the positive in ANY situation and as people say something negative, I am always the one to point out the good. We just rec'd our wedding album from our photographer today and again, I am disappointed. I just want to cry and that is so not my personality. I just can't seem to get over some of my disappointment. I am married to the most wonderful christian man and that of course is the positive. We did have an amazing ceremony and again such a positive. I am just so hurt about the day's events (so long that I won't go into detail) from having an aweful morning getting ready, to flowers the wrong color, my husbands gift not getting to him when scheduled therefore no photo and then someone lost it (all because the plan wasn't followed), so many missing photos, wedding planner taking direction from BM and therefore nothing was set up properly for our brunch reception. I have tried to confront but have yet to receive a sincere apology - just passing the blame. Though an apology would provide closure (I think), I know I can't depend on it. Any other suggestions on just moving forward? When people mention our wedding I want to have happy thoughts. I am desperately seeking what God was and is trying to teach me. Gosh, this sure was much longer than was intended.

Glad it helped Pat! Good points Maxx!

2009-10-01T18:09:32.443-04:00

Glad it helped Pat!

Good points Maxx!

Disappointment does not mean over or bad. I learne...

2009-09-29T13:40:19.322-04:00

Disappointment does not mean over or bad. I learned that a long time ago. God knows better about what's good for me. It's imperative to accept that, and thus, accept disappointment as part of the path to getting what you need.

You're right, I hold onto disappointment much too ...

2009-09-27T12:30:17.428-04:00

You're right, I hold onto disappointment much too and for too long. I wallow in it and feel lousy. I will follow your suggestions and try to change how I handle it.