Law of Attraction in Action: Positive Words

This is post 55 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power to attract all that you need. I do it every day! Read the posts in this series to see how.

One of the best lessons I learned about the Law of Attraction is to always make sure I frame what a want using positive words. It makes a BIG difference in what you attract. The Universe picks up on our thoughts—literally. It doesn’t interpret what we want or make judgments about what we say. It hears the words, which is why there’s a big emphasis in Law of Attraction teachings about watching your thoughts and what you say you want.

What you think can be what you get—literally.

It’s obvious that if you feel down and say, “Woe is me” that woe will be you. “Everything goes wrong for me” makes more things go wrong. I understood that and watched those thoughts. Just as getting into a habit of doing that can take a while, the more you become aware of what you think and say, the more you’ll recognize how you sabotage yourself without meaning to by using negative words.

I learned that it’s critical to use positive words for EVERYTHING you put out as a desire or expectation. The Universe will pick up on a negative in what you think is a positive statement. Even if you mean it in a positive way, the Universe won’t stop to interpret it. For example:

· “My back no longer hurts.” Your hurting back will come back to you! Instead, say, “My back feels great.” That attract your back to feel great.

· “I won’t date any more toxic people!” Sounds good but sends “toxic people” out and back to you. “I’ll only date healthy people” gives you a better chance of breaking romantic patterns.

· “I am getting out of debt!” In or out, you send debt out as what you attract. It’s more fruitful to say, “I’m becoming financially solvent.” That helps you get out of debt.

· “My next sales won’t fall though anymore like they’ve been doing!” Oh yes they will if you say it that way! Instead, try, “I only attract sales that go through.” Then allow yourself to be guided to them.

It’s not as easy to do as it sounds. It’s so normal so say what you don’t want anymore instead of using positive words. You must be really vigilant of what you say until you get the hang of it, like riding a bike. You fall a few times, then shakily get it and then it becomes more automatic. I’d affirm something and later realized the words I used would attract negatives. That made me a bit more conscious for the next time.

The more conscious I got, the faster I caught myself until I got into the habit of using appropriate words.

As my manifesting improved with my choice of words, I had more motivation to choose them carefully. Think of it as a game—the game of manifesting! The rules are only positive words. The goals are to make sure you find good ones to replace negatives. The prize? Manifesting what you want!

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No More Long Term Disappointment!

My last post for my Law of Attraction in Action series discussed disappointment and what we can attract when we feel it. I heard from a lot of people and wanted to add a few points to the topic.

Disappointment is a negative emotion that doesn’t feel good.

Negative emotions can hurt your health while positive ones enhance it. It’s your CHOICE to feel long term negative ones. It’s normal to feel disappointment when things don’t go your way. I don’t advocate just pushing it away when something you were hoping for or expecting doesn’t come through. That’s not healthy either! Work though it and then move on:

• Acknowledge your disappointment. Think about what happened, how you feel and why it feels so bad. Write down what it means to you if necessary to work through your feelings. It's okay to feel disappointed and have that lead to sadness. Fighting it keeps it alive. But it's also important to keep it in perspective!

• Talk it over with a friend. Someone sympathetic and positive can help you work through your feelings. Express how you feel and why. Sharing your feelings with someone who cares about you helps you let your sadness go.

• Don’t share your feelings with someone negative or who likes to dwell on them! They’ll just rehash your pain instead of encouraging you to look ahead to better things. Negative types can make you feel worse. Be selective about who you turn to.

• Allow your sadness to surface and grieve. Have a cry. It’s okay to feel down for a day or two as what happened sinks in. It’s when it becomes entrenched in your mood that it will be a problem. Soothe yourself with thoughts of other things in your life that are good.

• Ask yourself if you prefer to feel positive or negative. So simple! It’s your choice to feel bad or move on and find things to feel good about. When I feel like that, I clean, to take back control. I always feel better! Recite your blessings. Find what triggers you to snap out of a bad mood and use it.

• Accept that things happen for a reason and move on. When your faith is real, you can trust it will all work out for your highest good. Trying this and seeing it works is the best medicine for overcoming disappointment. Finding the reasons for what happened however far down the road is super empowering!

After my last post I heard from Brenda, who told me a story that I asked if I could share. She went to parochial grade school. When they felt disappointed, one of the nuns told the students not to be and not to think God wasn't answering their prayers. Brenda still remembers the nun saying:

“God did answer your prayer. He said NO because he knew it wasn't for our well being at that time...”

As the Rolling Stones said, "You can't always get what you want." And that's okay. Not getting what you want helps you appreciate when you do. Acceptance is a key to moving past disappointment. Even for big things, God has a plan, even if it’s not the one you so desperately wanted. When you can accept that, it’s easier to let go of disappointment and leave more room for being happy!

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Law of Attraction in Action: Disappointment

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Everyone gets disappointed. It’s just part of being alive. If you have no disappointment, you’re probably not living fully enough. I’ve said this at a talk and people have questioned how someone with strong faith in the Law of Attraction can be disappointed. Shouldn’t I just keep attracting what I want? No! It doesn’t work that way. And honestly, it’s better that way. Disappointments help us appreciate the good stuff. If everything went your way all the time, you’d take your blessings for granted.

I don’t manifest 24/7. There are many times that I’m so busy I forget my own lessons. Disappointing? Nope! It’s being human.

Often disappointments are also things we want that don’t happen because it’s not best for our highest good. If all we had to do to get anything was wish, we’d all have everything. But what you want may not be what you need or may not be best for you. Even so, if it doesn’t happen, you can become disappointed. That can set off a negative thought with a negative chain reaction.

Disappointment tells the Universe you feel let down. It's almost like the opposite of gratitude, which attracts blessings. So guess what disappointment attracts!

Disappointment can also block you from taking future risks in faith. People withhold joy and adventure in the name of avoiding disappointment. You might not realize you do it consciously but it happens. Disappointment doesn’t feel good. I agree. But you can’t let it stop risks or looking forward to getting stuff you want. And you shouldn’t let disappointment create fear—of being let down by not getting what you want.

Disappointments are road bumps, not doors that shut. It’s your choice, not your sentence, to get too discouraged to try again.

It’s a natural reaction to let the memory of disappointments permeate your consciousness and effect your decisions now. That’s living in the past, yet many of us do that. Disappointments wound us. They hurt. I’ve had some major letdowns that literally whammied me into pain as bad as a physical wound. It happens to us all. You may get fired or have a business tank or a deal fall through or lose someone you care about or a gazillion other letdowns. Your perspective about what happens determines your future.

When you’re disappointed, do you tell the Law of Attraction that you’re angry at what you got, or have faith that it happened for a reason?

I choose the latter. I’ve accepted that things happen for a reason and something that isn’t for my highest good won’t happen, even if I want it badly. I learned this when a top literary agent was enthusiastic about repping the first book I wanted to write. She was sure I’d get a 6-figure deal for it and insisted I go buy a conservative suit to wear to meet with editors. I did and walked around in frenetic excitement, expecting to be rich soon. But not one editor wanted to meet me and the book go no offers.

I was devastated when the agent gave up and mourned for a day to soothe my disappointment. Then I affirmed, “Everything happens for a reason, Whatever is meant to be will be.”

The Universe worked with me and brought me the reasons. I self-published a newsletter to have something to write and sell. Doing that made me a better writer and helped me solidify my writing voice. I needed to do that before editors got into the mix and pushed me possibly in the wrong direction. Feedback from people who subscribed to my newsletter gave me a confidence in my ability to write that I never would have if I’d gotten a deal back then.

Realizing that strengthened my faith and the Law of Attraction responded by showing me a better direction.

Disappointments can make you quit, or make you stronger. I got stronger! They can spark your determination to ultimately succeed if you let them. Disappointments have a profound effect on many people in ways they don’t easily recognize and spur you to send out counterproductive messages that helps the Law of Attraction send you more of what you don’t want, such as:

• “My romantic partner broke my heart. I’ll never love again!” If you prefer to never have love again, go for it. Otherwise, change your perspective to something like, “Next time I’ll love someone who is good for me and will treat me well.”

• “I’ll never get a job as good as the one I lost.” Is that what you want? If not, don’t say it!

• “Things aren’t going well. Life sucks!” Need I elaborate on what the Law of Attraction will bring you if you say things like this?

When you accept life’s circumstances and learn to roll with them, with a positive perspective, you’ll attract something more positive later. It can take a while. Years after the book I mentioned earlier didn’t get even a nibble from publishers, I’m grateful I never wrote that book. I know that had I gotten it published, my career would be very different. As I grew, so did my take on self-empowerment. That book would have steered my career in a direction that I’m so glad I didn’t go in. So in retrospect, if worked out perfectly.

Turn your disappointments into blessings! You can if you change how you view them.

Tell the Universe it’s okay, and that you trust you’ll get what's best for your highest good at the right time. Disappointments also teach when we let them. You can learn what to do better or differently next time whether it’s a relationship, business, trusting someone who let you down, etc.

Disappointments usually mean that what you wanted wasn’t for your highest good or the thoughts you put out attracted what disappointed you.

Either way you can control them. Tell the Law of Attraction you’re open and willing to accept what you get, and then watch your thoughts carefully to let the Universe know exactly what you expect. Doing that cuts down on disappointments and makes the best of the ones you have. I gave away the suit my first agent made me buy with the tags still on it. It wasn't my style. Now, my whole career is tailored to who I am and it fits me well! I'm so glad I turned that disappointment into a blessing!

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Happy Birthday to Me!

Another year to celebrate! I’m flat out kid today. Fun. Eating. Being lazy. Celebrating. Kids do these things. Adults often minimize the day as not a big deal or lament another year. As I said in my post on Monday for the Law of Attraction in Action series on Aging, birthdays are a fabulous way to celebrate another year of your life.

Choose to take care of yourself so you can age well and not be intimidated by getting older.

People tell me I’m lucky when they hear my age. I’m usually taken for a lot younger than I am. My skin is youthful, my body fit and my muscles strong. What surprises people the most is I don’t need glasses for anything. I recently went to an eye doc to get my form filled out to renew my driver’s license. Even she was surprised at my excellent vision. Lucky? Nope.

You too can have good health luck by taking excellent care of it like I do.

I’ve always tried to have good health habits. Maybe the luck is having parents who taught me the importance of taking vitamins and supplements, exercising, and paying close attention to the general care of my body. Since my late teens I’ve consciously cared for my skin. I read many health magazines to learn about what’s best for me. People laugh at me when they see how many pills I take each day. Let them! I just have to look in the mirror, look at them without glasses or see the numbers on my blood tests to laugh back!

Age isn’t just a number. It represents the number of years you’ve been blessed to be on this earth!

Each year is a blessing, not a curse. You make it a curse when you look at yours in a negative light. Sure I have more limitations than I used to. I feel it a little more when I stay out late or other activities. Oh well. Should I lament? Nope! I just work with what I have and watch myself a bit more since I don’t want to hurt my health.

Agatha Christie said, "I like living. I have sometimes been wildly, despairingly, acutely miserable, racked with sorrow, but through it all I still know quite certainly that just to be alive is a grand thing."

Being alive is a grand thing! A very grand thing! Don’t let other people or the media make you mourn birthdays. Celebrate you on your day, as I’m celebrating me today. You’re alive, and the same person you were yesterday. You don’t just change as the day comes. You can work with your years and enjoy them or work against them and be at unhappy about getting older, which ruins your joy!

This post is short today because I have things to do to celebrate! Special people, a reflexology session, enjoying the glorious weather I always attract for my HAPPY day! I’m wearing my t-shirt that says, “Women do not have an expiration date." You can see it backwards in the pic.

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Shifting from Duality to Relationship

Today I welcome Barbara Joye as a guest blogger. She’s stopping by on her virtual book tour for the title she co-authored, The Light Won: A Tutorial in Co-Creation.

Considering a Shift from Duality to Relationship
by Barbara Joye

I have often asked myself why life seems to be so difficult, so hard. In communicating with the Angelic Realm during the co-creation of the book The Light Won, I believe the Angels provided an answer that makes sense to me and to those I have shared it with thus far. The answer is that we are living life in ‘Duality’ rather than in ‘Relationship’. In fact we even live our relationships in a duality format.

Duality has been the manner in which we have lived for generations – perhaps since the beginning of time. As such, we are all well steeped in the ‘Game of Duality’ and know how to play it well. Duality says that this is right and this is wrong and gives us all the roadmap for living. Or does it?

Duality is, in fact, not an essence that our deeper persona relates to well. In the space our spirit lives, duality is an energetic drain as nothing else can be. And, if it is in the space our spirits live, perhaps it is for the human body and the human experience as well.

Perhaps it is well worth our time and effort to rethink our connection with The Game of Duality – and consider a shift to The Dance of Relationship. In the book The Light Won, comparisons between Duality and Relationship are provided in an insightful and powerful manner.

“What Duality defines as comparative, Relationship defines as connected.”
“What Duality labels as opposite, Relations characterize as balanced.”
“What Duality classifies as ‘out of sync’, Relationship expresses as expended.”

As I spent time with these concepts and began to consider how my life might change if I were to relinquish the Game of Duality in favor of the Dance of Relationship, I began to understand why this was not such a simple process – not the ‘no brainer’ one might think it would be.

For starters, who would define what is good and what is bad; what is right and what is wrong; what is appropriate and what is inappropriate? I have a hard enough time now staying in step with the culture and am known as a bit of a maverick…what would my life look like if I really took it upon myself to determine rights and wrongs; goods and bads; and, perhaps most challenging of all, appropriates and in appropriates? How out of step or out of control might my life become?

With these thoughts in mind, I awaited the next meeting with the Angelic Realm to ask a few more questions about this ‘Dance of Relationship’. I decided that a bit more insight was important to my being willing to step out on what felt like a limb and become an individual who lives life in relationship. The morning arrived for our next discussion and I opened with the questions I had pondered. The discussion what brisk and energizing and provided me with a whole new perspective of a life in relationship.

To begin with, living in relationship is about living in an understanding of your position on a topic or idea; the resulting possibilities the position you hold supports you in creating; the possibilities create perspectives and opinions; and the perspectives and opinions create the preference which determines how we relate to a specific topic or idea or action or outcome.

Position, possibilities, perspective and preference…these are the elements of relationship.

When we live in relationship, we are able to see our own positions and resulting preferences and we are able, when we have developed our relationship talents further, to see another individual’s positions and preferences, thus the ‘Dance of Relationship. For with an ability to perceive the position and preferences of another individual, we have a greater chance of meeting somewhere in the middle…on the dance floor.

And please note, living in relationship does not mean we should or would relinquish our preferences. It simply means we would understand where our preferences were formulated (that would be our positions with their resulting possibilities and perspectives) and from that vantage point determine just how clearly we are perceiving and whether or not we are willing to make any change, no matter how slight.

This ability to shift - even a miniscule amount - is one of the hallmarks of relationship.

* Relationship provides a way to navigate the differences of opinions that duality does not;
* Relationship exposes our thinking and those of the other individual or group so we may all see each other’s perspective; and
* The dance of relationship provides the music for relating and for finding the center of the issue or difference.

So, if relationship is so powerful and effective, why are we not all actively engaged in and living the possibilities inherent in the Dance of Relationship? First and foremost, because we so steeped in the Game of Duality, the Dance of Relationship has gone unnoticed until now.

Secondly, when we engage in the Dance of Relationship, we have to become responsible for our decisions as we are each determining our action based upon our own position, possibilities, perspectives, and preferences. The one perceived benefit of the Game of Duality is that life is ‘black and white’ and we do not really have to make very many decisions on our own. The societal customs and norms are well established. And whether they are positive or not, they at least exist.

And finally, the Dance of Relationship takes time and effort. With our busy lives, we decide that it is simply too much work. Or is it?

I would ask each individual to consider what their life might look like if lived in the relationship format. How might you life be more dynamic? What might the benefit be to move into a knowing of your position and preferences on just a few topics in your life? Who might benefit if you were to interface in the relationships in your life from a relationship perspective? What do you put at risk by simply considering the possibilities – and what makes sense, engage in and what does not make sense, leave until later.

The Dance of Relationship awaits each of us with its promise of more music and rhythm to life…what do we have to lose?
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Law of Attraction in Action: Aging

This is post 53 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power to attract all that you need. I do it every day! Read the posts in this series to see how.

My birthday is this Saturday, September 19^th. I’m looking forward to it with the joy of a little kid! Yet I hear over and over, people talking about their birthdays as one step closer to the end of their lives. They avoid telling their ages, even in their twenties. And they EXPECT to begin to get physical ailments as they approach their 40’s and beyond.

Hello! That screams to the Law of Attraction to make their aging process unpleasant. It usually works!

Each birthday is NOT a notch in your death sentence! It’s an opportunity to celebrate another glorious year on this earth. That’s what I do. My message to the Universe is that I intend to make the most of every day that I’m here. And my life keeps getting better. I attract better!

Getting old isn’t just in your head. Our bodies change. But you can adapt to the changes and find ways to keep up a positive attitude.

I admit, I get tired more easily these days. I hear it from others too. But creating a “woe is me” kind of message about getting more tired or your body aching a bit more as you get older and do activities attract more woe to you! The Law of Attraction brings you what expect. If you expect woe, you’ll get it! If you accept the changes with joy, knowing that the rest of your life is good, you’ll enjoy life a lot more.

Find ways around some of the glitches of getting older by taking better care of yourself, and you can offset it.

I’m still running several times a week. People even younger than me say they're sure they can’t do that anymore since they’re getting older and their knees will give them problems. Bah! When I began to run 4 years ago, I also began to take Glucosamine with Chondroitin and MSM. I knew it helps joints build more cartilage. When my mom (may she rest in peace) had a lot of pain during her power walks, her doc insisted she needed both knees replaced. I got her on the supplement and a few months later she was power walking pain free. Her doc was shocked that she no longer needed surgery.

So I take a smaller dose to protect my healthy knees, knowing I’m getting older and running can hurt my joints. And I take smaller (but more) strides than most runners, keeping my feet low to the ground to minimize impact. People laugh at me for all the supplements I take each day and the acupuncture I get regularly. But heck, I look much younger than my years and still do things that people much younger can’t keep up with.

Making some small conscious changes to protect your body, including your skin and hair, tells the Law of Attraction you intend to stay healthy as you age, and look better!

Friends I’ve known for years won’t tell me their ages, even though I know they’re younger than me and they know mine. Years ago I interviewed a famous singer, who was no more than 40 and told me she couldn’t get the number out of her mouth. It was too painful. What does that tell the Law of Attraction?—that aging is painful!

I acknowledge that there’s a lot of ageism out there, especially for women. I’ve been asked my age too many times before going on a TV show. It’s discriminatory and insulting! But that’s the way life is. I admit—I’ve lied to producers to get on the show and it’s never an issue after that. They call me back on. But age could get in my way of getting my foot into the youth conscious door.

Nonetheless, your age can’t be changed so you might as well make the best of your life instead of putting a damper on it by telling the Universe your age hurts you.

Find ways around any health issues that may come and don’t let them stop or depress you. Succumbing to fear of aging keeps you from living every day you have to the fullest. Happiness at any age is VERY possible. It’s up to you. Tell the Universe that aging makes you less of a worthy person or less healthy or less of anything and you’ll reap what you sow. Why ruin your joy!

Or, join me in celebrating every year of your life, without letting age get in your way. It’s YOUR choice how you perceive it.

I’ll begin my birthday celebration on Friday night and then celebrate all day on Saturday. Maybe Sunday too! But honestly, I try to celebrate every day as a new one. Saturday is the first day in the next year of my wonderful life. Not the beginning of another year closer to the end. It’s so much nicer to live in joy than fear or depression that you bring on yourself by expecting negatives.

I’m the same person no matter what my age. Universe—I’m ready for the next great year of my life! Bring it on!

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Keep Going!

Every time I run I want to stop. Going up hills motivates me even more to begin to create excuses for why I should cut myself some slack. I play this game in my head almost every time I do it. Sometimes the tendon behind my knee begins to hurt a little. I’m used to it and it always stops as I continue. I know it’s just a stiff muscle but when it hurts, I want to stop.

But I’ve learned that when I push through the pain I get to the other side and am always glad I did.

Living means encountering some pain. It can be the pain of exercise or the mental pain of being in a relationship that has problems or going after something that isn’t working yet or a number of other things. Mental pain can be worse than physical. There’s a whole lot of things that can hurt.

Lance Armstrong said, "Pain is temporary. It may last a minute, or an hour, or a day, or a year, but eventually it will subside and something else will take its place. If I quit, however, it lasts forever."

If you quit, it’s over, but so are the possibilities that come after the pain. Running keeps me fit. I don’t feel like quitting the whole time—just when pain either starts in my tendons or I feel tired and spent going up a hill. I do some loving self-talk. Knowing that without running, I’d probably gain weight, I lovingly call myself tubby and add a pep talk about how I need the exercise and must push through the pain.

I always make sure to be conscious when my run is over and say congrats to me for finishing!

There are times I almost give up. Times I’m so hungry I just want to run to McDonald’s and pig out. But I know that if I cut myself slack that once and shorten how much I do, or give in to the excuses and short term pain, I’ve lost. I remind myself of that whenever quitting thoughts go through my head. How can one time mean I’ve lost?

Giving in once means I’ll do it again.

You can always find excuses to quit. And if they work once, they’ll work again, which is why I can’t go there. Just as I said in my post Just This Once—Not!, I know that once you cut yourself slack, it’s so much easier to do it again in the future. So I push myself to be strong and push through any pain I’m experiencing. It’s also painful for me to make the calls and send emails to media people or others for my career. Not getting anywhere is downright mentally painful!! But this is the career path I’ve chosen and it has to be done to stay a freelance writer.

While the idea of experiencing pain isn’t pleasant, the rewards can be sweeter than you’d expect.

I’d never joined a gym or worked out with weights until 2001, when I decided my concern about how I’d learn to lift weights needed to be overcome in order to stay in good shape and keep my bones strong. I’d heard about slow motion weight training, where you lift heavy weights very slowly and when your body feels like it will die from the pain, you hold it for another count of 10 seconds.

Sound painful? It hurt more than anything I’ve ever done.

It sounded good before I began. The routine only take a half hour or less once a week, since you can’t do more than a few reps of each and it takes a week to recuperate. The science behind it is to quickly push your muscles to intense failure. That builds muscles faster than any other workout you can do. The workout is done with a trainer, who guides, pushes and insists you do what’s necessary. Most weeks I’d leave swearing that was the last time. And as I’d push through the pain of doing the reps, I’d think, “I have to quit!”

But I didn’t! Each week I returned for more torture, as I thought of it.

I did this program almost every week for a year. Had I skipped or shortened a session, I would have quit completely. I got into the habit of congratulating myself on the way home each week. I was truly proud of me. And that was a big factor in the rise of my self-esteem. It was tough but I pushed through! I didn’t let the pain make me quit. That motivated me to go back.

Pushing though pain is winning! The confidence it gives you to take more risks or do things that seem hard is priceless. I switched to a trainer in a regular gym after a year. By then, I’d learned many valuable lessons:

1) I can use my breathing along with my mind to lift the weights by concentrating hard and breathing into the lift.
2) Lifting in slow motion is a great way to learn perfect form for weight lifting.
3) I can do whatever I set my mind to!

After that year my body was much more toned and I had unusually strong muscles for only working out once a week for a year. My new trainer says I bench press heavier dumbbells than any woman he’s ever worked with, with perfect form! I’m up to 2 at 40 pounds each! When I’m stumbling with something, I remember how I felt when I left a slow motion session—proud beyond words. Even when my dentist had to do painful work on my tooth, I took deep breaths and told him to just keep going so it would be done faster instead of taking many breaks and dragging it out.

Self-love is a big motivator to push through pain. Doing so made my body healthier, which is important to me. Love yourself enough to drive through pain in situations that you know can have a reward at the other end. Stay on the treadmill a minute longer. Ride out the pain of breaking up with a romantic partner who isn’t good for you instead of going back for another sweet session ending in more pain.

Allow yourself to endure a painful treatment that can heal you.

Lance Armstrong hung in with his cancer treatments and he continued to hang in to win the Tour de France many times. You can win too if you love yourself enough to persevere to the other side of pain that can have a happy ending, like a fit and healthy body or freedom to find healthy love. You’re worth it! ☺

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Law of Attraction in Action: Recognizing Signs

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Summer is officially over, even though the calendar says differently. Outdoor pools are closing, even though it’s still warm, most people are done with vacations, shorter workdays are over and traffic in NYC has gone from minimal to bumper to bumper. I went on my run in Central Park this morning, lamenting about how quiet it was Monday and how crowded it is today.

Last week I talked about how September brings new beginnings for me. That seems to get into gear right after Labor Day. I’ve been saying spiritual affirmations all weekend, preparing to get into gear. I have a lot on my plate and needed to get busier. I tend to slow down in the summer. So I put myself into God’s hands and watched for the signs from Him with expectation. I said I was ready to break out and move forward.

People complain that they ask for things or put out expectations but get nothing. I ask if they’re watching for signs that their message is being heard.

They act like I’m crazy. What kind of signs?? Why aren’t they getting what they want?! Not recognizing the signs we get can make them think they’re not being heard and they give up. That tells the Law of Attraction that they’ve given up and no longer expect what they want. So they don’t get it.

Many people continue to try manifesting and end up empty-handed and disillusioned because they have blinders on.

Your higher spiritual power hears you and sends signals that you’re being heard, especially when you ask for them. It usually comes through experiences. But you have to watch for them and have enough faith to recognize them. Something can happen that you didn’t expect or small things can happen like all the traffic lights turn green when they never do. These signals are usually small, unless you ask for some bigger ones. When I’ve been scared or down about my career, I get quadruple the number of fan letters I normally get about my books. Whenever I recognize a sign, I look up and say thanks! Then I get more.

I call these God’s version of being my cheerleader, as they are reminders that God is here for me. They say, “You go Daylle!” They always spur me on!

As I ran yesterday AM, I asked for unexpected miracles, right here and right now. And I asked for signs that God was hearing me, as I needed a good spiritual kick!

When I got home, things started to go right. The elevator was waiting for me (one side has been out of service and it can take ages for it to come). I had an answer to an email that I needed. Then there were some odd signs that most people would laugh at but I’m enlightened enough to recognize them. For example, I love to play the video game Bejeweled 2 with my coffee as it helps make me alert for the day. This morning I hit one of my highest scores on the first try as I asked God for more signs. As I talked to Him while playing, much more bells and whistles than I usually see went off. Coincidence say the skeptics? I don’t care.

I KNOW it was God letting me know he was with me as everything on the board fell into place in ways it rarely does. I got excited, with my expectations going up a notch.

Later in the day I was doing some chores and threw the TV on. Deal or No Deal was on. They choose contestants by spinning a roulette wheel with 25 numbers. As it went round and round, I saw my lucky number 4 go by over and over and spontaneously asked God to let me know He was supporting me in what I needed by having the 4 chosen. The wheel spun a few more times and landed on 4! Even I was blown away by that! Coincidence? When they did it on the next show to choose the next contestant, 4 was chosen again! I got more revved and kept expecting more.

Messages from the Universe come through experiences and it’s up to you to recognize them.

The more things you recognize, the more you’ll look for and find them. Maybe it’s all in my head as some skeptics say, but my head is where all manifesting begins! Maybe it’s wishful thinking. But, I keep manifesting when it happens so it works!

There are signs big and small. They all speak to you if you listen! I’m so motivated, feeling God on my shoulder in many ways. When you need support, ask for experiences that you can’t miss to show you’re being heard. Then watch for them and be open-minded to how they come. They will if you EXPECT and recognize them as such. I WANT you to experience your own miracles, so please try this!

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Chill on the Attitude!

Happy September! I always think of this time of year as new beginnings. I admit, it’s partly because my birthday is this month. But also, as summer winds down and temps cool, things start to heat up in life. People begin going to seminars, consider career options and feel more of a need to get moving with their lives. Many of us are lazier in the summer. Work slows down. People take vacations. Workdays are often shorter. Now it’s time to get going!

Since it’s cooler, I’m literally doing more running in Central Park. My mood is brighter as I get more revved!

This morning I got up early to run. I was in a good mood and feeling energetic. I loved the crisp, cool (around 60), low humidity air with the sun shining brightly. I have to stop to stretch and hydrate occasionally and have spots I do that. My tendons behind my knees get too tight if I don’t. After a while, I jumped off the path most runners use. This spot is the end of a small stretch of dirt that some runners take instead of the paved path. I stop at the very end of a short one. Behind me is a fence so no one can continue.

I always thought I was out of people’s way there, until this woman with a bad attitude growled at me.

I see her often. She obviously has a physical disability. One of her arms seems permanently bent and she favors one side of her body as she runs. I’ve always admired her as she chugs along, despite her limitations. Until today. I saw her coming toward me as I drank some water and assumed she’d jump onto the main path like everyone else does when they reach the end of the dirt path. I do that sometimes. I backed up against the fence to give her room as she closed in on me. Fast!

As she turned around to go back the way she came she growled at me, “Why are you here?!!” with hostility

She knew I was a runner (even if she didn’t recognize me, she could see I was sweaty and had been running). It would seem logical that I’d be in this dead end space instead of blocking many runners on the main path when I stopped to refresh. Often I see people just hanging in that spot who aren’t in the park to exercise. It’s everyone’s park. I admit I get annoyed when people walk in groups on the path for exercisers when there’s a walking path parallel to it. But I don’t verbally attack them. I go around them.

I was so stunned by this woman’s anger that I couldn’t retort before she turned and ran back. Being handicapped doesn’t give license to be nasty.

I assumed her routine is to run to this point and turn around and go back. She looked like she wanted to tag the fence. But in a public park, you can’t always do things your way. I felt angry as I began to run again. What had been a lovely peaceful run got snagged with her negativity. I silently answered her in my head. “Why am I here?” Because I have a right to be! It’s a city park! Better there than blocking many runners. I wasn’t expecting someone to need that dead end. As I resumed my run, I thought I might see her again if she turned and came back toward me and I could shout that at her.

Gratefully, I caught myself. This woman is obviously unhappy if she makes such a big deal out of going all the way to the fence.

It wasn’t worth ruining my run over by letting the thoughts play in my head. I let it go. By feeding a need to say something to her, I was adopting her bad attitude. Maybe yelling something would feel good for the moment but it wasn’t necessary. In the bigger picture, it wouldn’t be a nice thing to do. This woman has a physical problem and maybe this run is her only way to feel in control. So I let it go and felt much better after.

Telling someone off isn’t worth the energy most of the time.

Compassion for the fact a person who gets mean or nasty must be unhappy about something in their life eases anger. Understanding that makes it easier to accept their actions. Bad attitudes can be contagious, just as good ones can be. Watch yourself when you’re hit with one that makes you bristle. Forgive the person for taking their own stuff out on you in your heart and let it go! Instead, spread a good attitude to others! ☺

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Law of Attraction in Action: Tough Times

This is post 51 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power to attract all that you need. I do it every day! Read the posts in this series to see how.

The economy has been bad for a while. That's true! Many people are out of work. that's true too! Prices are going up. The news media spreads the hype that we’re going through tough times. I hear people, even those with good jobs, talking about what tough times we’re having. Even people on TV talk shows, who have to be making a better than average salary are talking about having to cut back like it’s a real bad problem.

You’re having a tough time IF you choose to have one.

It’s hard not to feel the pinch, even if nothing has changed in your economic world if tough times are discussed so much. There are constantly segments on TV about how to budget and find ways to get through these tough times. I often turn the channel when they come on. Of course I like to know how to save money. That’s always good. But I don’t like the message that comes with the tips—that we’re living in tough times.

These are only tough times if you think of them as tough times! And if you do, the Law of Attraction will reinforce it for you.

During times when people around you seem to be struggling, do what you can to keep negative expectations out of your world. Even if you lose your job, expect to find something better. I’ve spoken to people who’ve had this happen. Some talk like their life is over. “Oh woe is me!” “What will I do?” They immerse themselves in the tough times and attract more tough times.

Every situation can be gotten through when you put out a positive vibration of expecting good things to come, even in the face of adversity.

I know it’s hard. I’ve been there. That’s why I considered my #1 blessing to be the strong faith I have that everything will work out. I don’t have a job. I rely on getting book deals, speaking gigs and counseling clients. Once when my checking account was empty and I had no work, I automatically went into panic mode. But I caught myself fast. I KNOW with all my heart that I have a steady income. So I cleaned to feel back in control like I discussed in my Law of Attraction in Action: Control post. Then I expected to get something good. Two new books to write came to me at once the next week!

Stressing out over the economy shows a lack of faith. And it makes you more unhappy.

Why do that to yourself? Instead, be more loving, take some deep breaths, and work on creating a strong vibration to show the Universe you intend to get what you need. When I needed an income, I screamed affirmations with joy. Over and over! I made it clear that my intention was strong and I wasn’t worried because I expected to get what I needed.

“I have the income I need from whatever source is best for my highest good!”

There are still jobs to be had. How you CHOOSE to view your situation determines where you land. I have a friend who’s been out of work for a while. She collected unemployment as she did a job search in this tighter job market. She also got some freelance work to help out. Never once did I see her lose her positive attitude. She went on one interview after another, only to find 20 other candidates were fighting for the one job.

Laurie continued to do her best, certain that she was okay and would get a job when the time and position were right.

Her unemployment was about to run out but she hung in with a smile and relaxed attitude. In this time that many see as tough, Laurie landed her dream job. It was a perfect fit for her, a good salary, and she loves the work. While others sit home lamenting about tough times, and bringing them on with their thoughts, others are finding great opportunities.

It YOUR choice how to spin the economy in your head. Tough, challenging or full of new opportunities?

My world hasn’t been hit by the “tough times.” I still live as usual. Some people see the way I live as on edge, since I don’t have a steady paycheck. I don’t at all! The week before I finished up my last book, I looked up and said I was ready for the next one. The next day I got a call to write the most prestigious book of my career—so far! It’s a challenge but I’m up for it. When you have faith, life flows with good in your direction!

Living within your means doesn’t have to be tough!

Prices have gone up dramatically here in NYC. But it hasn’t really affected my lifestyle. I’ve changed some habits that save money and have been good for me too! For example, I always eat out of the weekend. I don’t drink a lot of coffee during the week but always had several cups in restaurants. So I cut them out. It’s better for my health and compensates for the increased cost of my meal. I no longer miss it and have some before or after that I make myself.

Saving money can also be healthy!

I’ve actually cut back on my portions of meat which saves money . I didn’t consciously do that to save money. It just seemed healthier to eat less meat so I do now. And it’s helped me to slowly trim my weight. To me that’s a win/win situation! I save money and calories.

Don’t let the media convince you that you’re living in tough times. They may be tough all around you but don’t have to be in your little corner of the world!

Count your blessings, do positive affirmations and keep expecting good things, even miracles! You can create a secure environment in an insecure world if you expect it. Remember, the Law of Attraction will bring you whatever you think, so think happy, prosperous times and finding new ways to live a great life!

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