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Friday, December 18, 2009

Listening to Your Spiritual Tap

Frank McKinney, NY Times best-selling author, was inspired by the biblical passage, “from those to whom much is entrusted, much will be expected” when he wrote The Tap (Health Communications, Inc.). He’s a businessman who believes heart and soul that we’re judged not on what we accumulate or achieve through life but more on our spirit of generosity towards others. In his inspirational book, he shares how God’s great ‘tap’ moments in life prove that compassionate capitalism and spiritual stewardship can co-exist.


Frank McKinney is a successful
real estate entrepreneur. He generously donates significant amounts of money to his non-profit, Caring House Project Foundation (CHPF) that provides a self-sustaining existence for desperately poor and homeless families around the world. He credits his astronomical success to his deep faith and accompanying spiritual principles. He believes that God ‘taps’ each and every one of us many times in life, answering prayers and presenting life-changing opportunities.


I got chills listening to Frank speak and feel so much more aware of my need to give back more for all my blessings. I know I was 'tapped' to start my Project Self-Empowerment. Frank takes what I wrote in my last post, Law of Attraction in Action: Charity to a much higher level. He truly believes that our blessings are to be shared with others and that in turn attracts many more blessings. The synergy is bountiful when you use it with compassion for others and take action instead of just talking about it. Here’s what he had to say:


What gave you the balls to leave home with $50 and no higher education? Ignorance. I was heading down a path that only a juvenile delinquent can forge at 18. I felt a need for a change of venue from Indianapolis in 1982. What better place to land than West Palm Beach in south Florida? I began to seek my professional highest calling.


How did you get into real estate? In1986, I was earning a 6-figure income teaching tennis, but there was a limit to how many hours I could bake out in the sun. I saved up my money and bought my first piece of property—a $35,000 fixer upper in a bad part of town. When I sold it I made $7,000. It could have been Monopoly money. I proved that my concept worked—buying an undervalued property and adding value to it like nobody else and marketing it like nobody else.


From my professional highest calling standpoint, that was an epiphanous moment—knowing I could do it. While I’ve added zeroes to it now, I still do what I did 25 years ago. After 5 years I finally got the courage to move to the ocean front and start building beautiful homes with a lot more zeroes. That was a quantum leap but the application wasn’t too different from that first fixer upper.


How have you been able to do so much? I am a simpleton—a very linear thinker. This year I wrote 3 books and released them at the same time. I break things down into very simple compartments and don’t overcomplicate things or do a lot of research online, rationalize or over plan it. We as a species inherently, in the information age we live in today, over-research, over-Google, to the point that subconsciously we’re looking for a reason to say no to things. I’m a do-er, not a talker. Action cures fear. Lack of action feeds fear. The fear tends to subside when we take action.


What helped you to continue taking risks? I have a life mantra that’s also a chapter title in The Tap: Exercise your risk threshold like a muscle and eventually it becomes stronger and is able to withstand greater pressure. I got to where I am today—taking big risks that make people ask how I sleep—by exercising my tolerance for risk at a young age and building up that fear muscle. I’m afraid every day of my life but don’t let it stop me. I embrace and enjoy it. It’s a part of my DNA now. It makes me feel very alive when I’m doing something that causes fear.


How would you rate the importance of doing things to give back in the big picture of doing business? The Tap is all about this concept. Most of us pursue this professional highest calling our entire lives, to the detriment of pursuing our spiritual highest calling and sharing our blessings with those who are less fortunate. My mentors are some of the most successful people in the world. They understand that God rewards responsible stewards. When we realize it’s incumbent on us to share time, talent and treasure, we realize that the territory becomes larger.


What’s the concept behind your book The Tap? I hope to teach people how to sensitize themselves to what I refer to as life’s great tap moments. A lot of people don’t know how to recognize God tapping you on the shoulder and when they do, they see it as an annoyance. Then you’ve got to take action. That’s the message I want to get through. Let’s learn how to sensitize ourselves to life’s great tap moments and then how to take action on them!


Compassion with action is a waste of emotions. You can feel very good about doing something nice for people but if you don’t act on it, success in the business we’re all in—the business of life—will be ever elusive. That’s why I rate the concept behind the tap as the primary contributor to my success.


How does this work with the Law of Attraction? You benefit when you’ve been tapped and understand why you need to manifest these things, and it’s not for you. It’s for others. Then and only then do you have a chance for that BMW to fall down your chimney. That’s how I see The Secret. It’s not about the material things. When you dovetail your professional highest calling with your spiritual highest calling—oh boy!


Why did you create the Caring House Project Foundation? It started by saying yes to my first little tap of going to serve meals to the homeless, one night a week. Then I began fixing up houses and rented them out for a dollar a month to elderly homeless people instead of selling them. Then we went to Haiti, the poorest country in the western hemisphere and started building little houses. The average life expectancy there is 47 years and there’s a 22% chance that a 5-year old will not see their fifth birthday. I’m in the housing business so I thought I should provide housing for those who don’t have it and that’s what I did.


We started building self-sufficient villages. The deeper I understood the concept behind the tap, the larger the Caring House Project Foundation grew. Now every book I write, all the royalties I receive, all the appearance fees I get and a good portion of profits when I sell a house goes to funding these 14 villages that combine a school, clinic, community center, homes, clean drinking water, and renewable food, all in a campus-like setting. Start with something small. Visit a children’s hospital. My tap moment began with something small and look how it’s grown!


In The Tap there are 7 stages to feeling the tap. I want to maintain myself at that seventh stage. It’s part of my business plan. I build the big houses so I can build a lot of small houses in Haiti. There’s purpose in my life every day. It’s just part of my spiritual higher calling.


Why did you write The Tap? Each of you has been blessed with the ability to succeed at some level. It’s important for you to realize that those successes were not meant for your sole benefit. They were meant to also benefit those less fortunate. People have those self-defeating thoughts, like, “I am not worthy.” But you are and you have been blessed with the ability to succeed at some level. You have to realize that those blessings weren’t just meant for you. They were meant to be shared with those less fortunate. Once you get that, it’s amazing how things will just explode for you.

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Check out Frank McKinney's book The Tap to further understand that rewards will come with astonishing speed and size to those who act on the greater responsibility that comes with greater blessings. See why this world would be a much better place if everyone read his compelling message and became a “tapped” person as a result of it! Listening to and acting on my taps has brought me abundance that's priceless.


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4 comments:

benT said...

Great book! One of my favorite parts has got to be Frank McKinney meeting with Don King, two guys with crazy hair..lol

Never judge a book by it's cover. when I first saw the authors picture I would have never thought he'd have the human qualties that he does. This book motivated me a lot, I think I will read it again.

Lilliana said...

I never thought of giving back in this way Daylle. This interview was very enlightening. Thanks for sharing Frank's story. I'm going to pay more attention to when I'm tapped.

Daylle Deanna Schwartz said...

You're so right Ben!

Hope you can implement it Lilliana!

Daylle Deanna Schwartz said...

You're so right Ben!

Hope you can implement it Lilliana!