The Law of Attraction in Action: Who Are You?

This is my seventh post in my Monday series on the Law of Attraction, inspired by watching Louise Hay’s You Can Heal Your Life, the movie, expanded version. I know it’s Tuesday but I’m traveling and didn’t have Internet access yesterday.

While I was at the college event I spoke at last week, I noticed something lovely. The people at Demo Entertainment Group, who put the event together, had very positive outlooks. They were friendly, happy, enthusiastic and considerate. And guess what? The Law of Attraction brought them volunteers with the same qualities. And attendees. The event was charged with great energy and cheer. Lucky?! I don’t think so!

The Law of Attraction brings you like-minded people. Your persona sends out vibes that attracts more of the kind of person you are.

Everyone you come into contact with mirrors something about you. They’re all attracted for a reason. Someone might reflect your good qualities or something about you that needs changing. When I first heard this concept, I tried to figure out why I’d attracted the boyfriend I’d just broken up with. I didn’t like who he was as a person, which is why I ended it. He was very critical, with a perfectionist manner. He was hard on himself and picked on me. So what did he reflect? His criticism was directed at qualities I didn’t like either. It made me more aware of a need to change the habits I defended to him.

Negative people can teach us valuable lessons. I became a better person by changing some of my ways, once I got rid of my biggest bad habit at the time—the boyfriend! ☺

So who are you? Doubtful? Friendly? Skeptical? Whichever one you exude will be reflected in the people who you attract into your life. Years ago, I had a record label. People often warned that the music business was cutthroat. I got advice: “Be careful about everyone and always put yourself first as others do.” “Watch your back.” I didn’t listen and was friendly to everyone. I helped when I could.

By having a positive attitude, I attracted others who had one. I got help with everything I needed.

Big people supported me. I got freebies for services that would cost hundreds, or more. Chris, an engineer at a major mastering studio, who got an exorbitant hourly fee, came to the studio for the final mix for one of my recordings. He added his skills and great ear. Then he took the finished product to his very expensive facility and edited it for free. Why? He said I was a nice person. Few people went out of their way to thank him when he mastered their record. I always did. And I always had good manners.

Many people said it was nice to deal with someone with a courteous, appreciative attitude. They liked helping a nice person.

The Law of Attraction brought me all sorts of good people who, rather than cut my throat, watched out for me with others who might do it. I got an education and was guided to other good folks. While the rest of the people in the music industry lived in a cutthroat world, I created my own little world of kind people who reached out with help. I continue to do it in other areas of my life.

The Law of Attraction helps you to create an immediate positive, personal world that doesn’t have to match a more negative one that others around you may have.


I live in midtown Manhattan. When I have visitors, they’re often surprised at how many people say hello to me when I’m on the elevator or walking down the street. NYC has a rep of being a cold place. My neighborhood has many people. Most are busy. But I always walk with a friendly smile and attitude and NYC folks respond. Neighbors, store clerks, people who work in mine and surrounding buildings recognize me and say hi. My NYC world is warm and friendly! It's what I expect and my demeanor reflects that!

Survival doesn’t mean sinking to other people’s level. You can change the vibe you put out and attract better people and situations.

When a client complains to me about continuing to attract a certain type of romantic partner, co-worker, boss, customer service person, etc. that they don’t like, I advise taking a good look at themselves. What does their demeanor say?

* People complain about always ending up with an alcoholic partner or one who becomes abusive or demanding or controlling. I’ve never dated one of those types! We tend to subconsciously expect to find qualities we’re used to in all romantic partners. That revolving door pattern can be stopped with consciousness and working on being someone that a good person would be attracted to. Manage your expectations of attracting a clone of earlier romantic partners. What matters is NOW!

* From one job to another, people complain about always getting a boss who expects too much and is insensitive to their needs. My editors and people I’ve worked with when I had a job have always been the best! Walking into a job with a positive attitude and with some tools to deal with difficult folks—just in case—helps create a more peaceful work environment.

* You might have a bad attitude and expect customer service folks to be uncooperative when you’re upset that your phone isn’t working right, a product is defective or any of the other things you need service for. That can make you less than calm and courteous. You may expect to get poor service and let it show in your demeanor. That attracts what you expect—more poor service. From the get-go, try treating the person with respect and appreciation for the help they’ll give you. You might be pleasantly surprised at how much more they’ll want to help you!

Your attitude and general manner tells the Law of Attraction what to send you. Surly brings other surly folks. Cool keeps you chilly from those around you. Dissatisfaction attracts more to make you dissatisfied about. Yet when you have an air of warmth, the Law of Attraction sends more warmth to you. Going out angry attracts more things to be angry about. Leaving what you’re angry about behind you and staying positive attracts a better set of circumstances.

What in your behavior attracts people to you? Think about it! Do you:

* Let bad moods gets to you? Ask yourself what benefits come from that. A bad mood is usually accompanied by negative rumblings in your head. That’s what the Law of Attraction picks up on and supports.

* Carry anger around with you, stewing to other people, and to yourself? That keeps the anger alive. The Law of Attraction will pick up on that and support your stewing. It might even attract more situations that make you angry. Tell the person who made you angry how you feel, either directly or on paper, which they never have to see. Then forgive and move on. If you can’t or don’t want to forgive the person directly, do it in your heart.

* Think poorly of yourself? You should know the drill on that one! If you feel bad about yourself, the Law of Attraction will support your lack of confidence. I used to wonder why I couldn’t get out of the hole I dug in my DoorMat days. I felt inferior and looked that way. The Law of Attraction supported my insecurity and people who prey on it. You can fake confidence and get support in that from the Universe until it’s real!

The Law of Attraction isn’t selective. It picks up on everything. Be more conscious about how you come across to others, because that’s how the Law of Attraction views what you want. BE the person you want to attract into your world, no matter how others treat you. That gives you the power to fill your world with good people and situations.

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Law of Attraction in Action: Age

This is my sixth post in my Monday series on the Law of Attraction, inspired by watching Louise Hay’s You Can Heal Your Life, the movie, expanded version, except it’s not Monday. ☺It’s been a hectic week and I couldn’t get it up till now. I’ve been on the road with little time to do anything extra. Currently I’m in Miami to speak and am staying longer just to chill and be away. That should attract feeling more relaxed!

The timing is perfect for me to discuss how our perception of age attracts a more positive or negative reality. My birthday was on Friday. That’s a day I become like a kid, celebrating another wonderful year of my life. Do you see how I phrased that? I rejoice in each year and the Universe returns that with another good one. Many people see their birthdays as a year closer to the end--bemoaning the years instead of celebrating them. And what does hating getting older attract? Lower self-esteem; fear of each year coming, which attracts stress and dampens joy.

You can’t change your age but you can change how you perceive it!

I see myself as a young chickie, though I’ve been out of my twenties for quite a while. When you feel old, it can attract rejection. Discomfort with your age attracts discomfort with yourself. Self-esteem gets damaged as you feel “less than” those younger than you. It can also make you feel like you don’t fit in with younger people, which is totally unnecessary!

I just finished 2 days at a college, speaking to students and hanging with the young people in the organization that brought me down. I fit right in, because I EXPECTED to.

If you EXPECT to feel out of place, you will! Why do that? You’re getting older. We all are. That’s part of life. But why attract unhappiness by fearing the passing years and being intimidated or ashamed of your age? I hear women of all ages lamenting their age and refusing to tell even friends how old they are. I have several friends who are younger than me, yet they won’t say their age. They know mine but can’t say theirs. It’s too painful for them. The Law of Attraction causes these women to be unhappy in other areas and it’s a shame!

Your number doesn’t change who you are unless you adopt a perspective of gloom and attract gloom for it.

I sometimes don’t tell someone my age right away. I like them to get to know me first as a person. Whether someone knows my age or not, I’m still the same girl. If they like and respect me before knowing how old I am, that shouldn’t change when they find out. If they thought I was younger and it bothers them, they can stuff it!

Your age doesn’t determine who you are. You become the person that your attitude attracts.

Last week I had lunch with a friend. As we discussed my birthday, she sadly expressed that she was dreading hers. She’s only twenty-five and looks fantastic! Yet she sat there talking about turning twenty-six like she’d shrivel up on that day. At first I laughed when she fervently mourned her upcoming birthday. But I realized this was traumatic for her. She’d be closer to thirty than twenty. Yet you don’t just become OLD on your birthday. It’s just a calendar day to remember how many years you’ve been blessed to be on this earth.

You can be twenty years old or seventy years young. It’s YOUR choice what comes after your number. I choose YOUNG!

My self-perception is ageless. I’m ageless! Just Daylle in the current package. No apologies or fears. I love me as I am and celebrate each birthday as a blessing, not a curse. I take the best care that I can to stay fit and healthy and am rewarded with a youthful look and demeanor. The Law of Attraction brings me lots of joy and contentment as each year passes. I act content, and receive it back.

Accept yourself as you are, in your own skin, with your own longevity. Rejoice in the years. You really do get better if you expect to. Sure, I feel a few more creaks and notice some small signs of age. My skin has some lines. But with good care and good products, I remain as good as I can be at any age. Own your years joyously and the Law of Attraction will bring you contentment. Celebrate your years and the Law of Attraction will bring you more to celebrate.

Always remember you’re the same person whether you admit your age or not. A number can’t change you. Only a negative attitude toward it will make you unhappy.

I get older each day and I embrace it with gratitude that I’m here, getting older, staying healthy and still looking pretty darn hot. As I live life to its fullest, the Law of Attraction makes life wonderful, despite the years ticking by. I advise you to join me in becoming ageless and not worrying about getting older. Focus on maintaining good health and doing what you can to not let age stop you from doing new things and achieving your goals.

Age doesn’t limit you. YOU limit you. But you can change that NOW by letting go of any negatives you may attach to your age and enjoy your life more! ☺

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Acing a Job Interview

Many companies are going under. People are losing jobs. Some just want to get a better one. Women who stayed home to raise kids are getting back into the workforce. New graduates are looking for their starter jobs. With so many people competing for income earning situations, doing a great job interview is more critical than ever.

If you need a job and are scared, that’s the energy you put out to the Universe.

Fear expresses a lack of faith. Therefore, when you’re scared, the Law of Attraction supports the doubt you feel. If you feel desperate and willing to take almost anything that pays the bills, that’s what you’ll get. Instead, reframe your situation as an opportunity to find a good job that makes you happy. They’re out there! Many people do get them. Not all. But companies are hiring. Why not you?

Focus on doing the best you can to apply to all GOOD jobs and make a fabulous impression on the person you interview with. That shows the Universe you're serious, and brings better opportunities. That’s why I’m delighted to have an excerpt from the book, No-Nonsense Job Interviews: How to Impress Prospective Employers and Ace Any Interview (Career Press (July 1, 2008) by Arnold G. Boldt, who also wrote No-Nonsense Resumes and No-Nonsense Cover Letters No-Nonsense Job Interviews has all the info you need to make the best impression possible when doing an interview. Besides his own, each chapter has advice from other pros.

In Chapter 7, Simple Truths About Handling the 5 Toughest Challenges, Boldt gives great tips for handling an incompetent interviewer, fielding illegal questions, interviewing on short notice, explaining an extended employment gap and the one I’m excerpting, Premature Salary Discussion. I frequently hear people complain that they don’t know what to say when they’re asked about the salary they want before they get a feel for the job or make an impression. So I chose to reprint how to handle this challenge.

CHALLENGE #5: PREMATURE SALARY DISCUSSION

Several of my colleagues who are experts in the field of salary negotiation claim that whoever first mentions a salary number—the interviewer or the candidate—is suddenly in the weaker position. In general, this is a fairly accurate assessment. Ideally, the salary topic should not be discussed until a job offer is on the table. You have everything to lose if your response isn’t perfectly in tune with what the interviewer has in mind. A common question sprung by many interviewers early in the process is, “What kind of salary are you looking for?”

At this early stage, it is extremely difficult to respond to this question directly and honestly without a high risk of weakening or even torpedoing your candidacy. If you reply with a number that is too low (either because you are too willing to be underpaid, or are worried that asking for too much will price yourself out of the running), you actually devalue your abilities. A lowball reply may even raise suspicion about your motives or cause the interviewer to doubt your understanding of the position. On the other hand, if you reply with a number that the interviewer perceives as too high, you may, in fact, price yourself right out of the market and cause the interviewer to conclude that the organization can’t afford you. Either way, you’ve hurt your chances to get a job offer.

To be fair, some interviewers deliberately introduce the salary question early in the process to instantly determine your level of experience and possibly save everyone time. Some interviewers want to determine early on whether you’ll settle for the low end of the scale. Still others are truly “shopping” among candidates, believing they are acting in the best interests of the organization by seeking out the least expensive candidate available. The best scenario for you is when the interviewer or other decision-maker is prepared to pay whatever is necessary to hire the person identified as the best candidate to get the job done.

Because it’s difficult to determine the interviewer’s motivation when the question is broached prematurely, it’s recommended that you gracefully defer a discussion of salary unless and until a job offer is actually extended to you. How can you accomplish this without appearing insubordinate, overly shrewd, or even cagey? Try adapting one of the following statements to your unique situation—perhaps they will spark your own approach to deferring the salary discussion until there’s a job offer on the table.

* I’d be pleased to consider any reasonable offer. How about if we come back to the salary discussion after we’ve more fully reviewed the details of the position and what you’re really looking for, and after you’ve had the chance to see the value I can bring to this organization.

* Before we talk about compensation, could we discuss more fully your expectations for the position and how my qualifications meet your needs?

* I really need some more information on your expectations for the position before I could speak with any certainty about salary.

* My top priority is finding the right opportunity and a good fit. Once we determine thereís mutual benefit, I would be open to any fair offer.

* Compensation involves so many factors besides salary—for example, vacation time, medical benefits, and tuition assistance—that I would need to understand more about your overall compensation strategy and how this position fits. I’m sure if you decide that I’m the best candidate for the position, we could come to a mutually beneficial agreement.

The next chapter addresses salary discussions and negotiations in much greater detail.
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Arnold G. Boldt is a Certified Professional Resume Writer and Job & Career Transition Coach and a managing partner of Arnold-Smith Associates, a career transition consulting firm. Check out No-Nonsense Job Interviews if you or someone you care about is looking for a job.

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Law of Attraction in Action: Smiling in Your Mirror of Other People

This is my fifth post in my Monday series on the Law of Attraction, inspired by watching Louise Hay’s You Can Heal Your Life, the movie, expanded version.

Yesterday I was in a special mood today. Some things had gone well for me. I was doing some errands and walked by a construction worker who asked, “how are you doing today?” Normally I get very annoyed when men talk to me on the street. While I’m very friendly, I tend to put up blinders when I walk in public since I’ve had some bad experiences in the past when I responded. This is probably a reason why some people perceive New Yorkers as being cold. We’re not! But there are some unsavory characters here.

Construction workers can be annoying. Responding to a friendly hi from one can lead to personal comments about body parts or sexual innuendos. It’s uncomfortable to have to field these kind of statements. And then there are men who try to put women on the spot to talk to them. It’s starts with an innocent comment but if we respond to be polite, it can morph into an intrusion.

So I tend to ignore all comment, etc. to avoid an unpleasant situation. Until today…

I’m not sure why but when the construction worker asked how I was doing, I breezed by him and replied, “I’m great. And how are you?” And I smiled. He smiled back, perhaps surprised to get an answer, and friendliness. It felt good and I took the good feeling with me, walking away smiling. And a funny thing happened.

The Law of Attraction brought that vibe back to me for the rest of the day.

I went to the supermarket and the guy behind the deli counter said, “hi, how are you doing today?” So did the cashier. All day long people smiled and asked how I was doing. It put me in a good mood each time. I smiled a lot more than I normally do while doing mundane errands. After a while I even laughed to myself. Changing my expectation of getting a bad result from being friendly to strangers attracted friendliness from people I didn’t know wherever I went.

We get back what we put out. That Law of Attraction works for or against us in all areas of living and interactions with people.

If you walk around with a chip on your shoulder, you’ll meet more people whose behavior reflects the ones who put the chip there since that’s the expectation you’re putting out. If your demeanor is a friendly one, more people will be friendly to you. Yesterday I felt cheerier than I have in a while. Responding in a friendly manner to the construction worker was a simple thing that put me in a good mood for the entire day because I got friendliness and good cheer from everyone who crossed my path.

While I don’t encourage talking to all strangers who talk to you, be aware of how the Law of Attraction brings friendliness and smiles back to you. New York may seem unfriendly to many people but in my little corner of it, it’s bright and cheerful. I like to be friendly, expect friendliness, and my world is friendly!

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How to Be Irresistible to Your Mate

I'm delighted to have Tina Tessina, Ph.D. back as my guest. Tina is a licensed psychotherapist in private practice in California. She’s the author of many books, including the best selling, The 10 Smartest Decisions A Woman Can Make Before 40 Money, and her newest, Sex and Kids: Stop Fighting about the Three Things That Can Ruin Your Marriage (Adams Media, 2008). Tina also writes the "Dr. Romance" column on Yahoo! Personals and MUCH more! Here she has suggestions for being a more enticing romantic partner.

How to Be Irresistible to Your Mate
(adapted from Money, Sex and Kids: © Tina B.Tessina, 2006)
By Tina Tessina, Ph.D.

Once upon a time, In high school, I memorized a poem that has been a constant source of help and direction in my life and relationships. It’s simple and much more sentimental than today’s cynical age can handle, but the very simplicity of it made it a great navigational tool for me in relationships.

“He drew a circle that shut me out;
Heretic, Rebel, a thing to flout.
But Love and I had the Wit to Win.
We drew a circle that took him in”
– Edwin Markham

So many couples I see in my office are in trouble because they have a knee-jerk oppositional response to each other—they’re defensive and critical, rather than welcoming and understanding. They don’t seem to realize that listening and understanding your partner doesn’t necessarily mean you agree with everything that partner wants or thinks. Being pleasant doesn’t mean you’re a patsy, and it’s more effective to be loving than to be right.

Guidelines for Being Irresistible to Your Mate

1. Don’t resist, listen. We often have a knee-jerk negative response to what a mate tells us, or wants to do. Instead of replying negatively “That won’t work...” “We can’t do that...” Try listening and thinking for a few seconds more. You may find out your initial response changes, and at any rate, listening and understanding is not the same as agreeing.

2. Look your mate in the eyes and smile. Unless your partner is talking about something really sad (job loss, death, etc.) where a smile would be inappropriate, look him or her in the eyes and smile while you’re listening. Your companion will automatically feel more understood and cared about, which will change the feeling level of the discussion.

3. Touch each other. Sit near your significant other, and gently place your hand on his or her shoulder, leg, or arm. If you’re in the car, lightly touch his or her shoulder or arm. You’ll find your conversation becomes warmer and more caring.

4. Try laughter. If something frustrating is happening, try easing the tension with a bit of humor. After a difficult interaction in a store, on the way out, you could say “That went well.” with a touch of irony. Or, when someone drops something and makes a mess, you could say “the gremlins are here again.” Or use comedienne Gilda Radner’s line “It’s always something” Or Judy Tenuta’s “It could happen” to change stress to silliness. Don’t poke fun at your mate, but use shared humor as a way to say “I know this is tough, but we’ll get through it.” Your mate will think of you as someone soothing and helpful to have around when problems happen.

5. Use pleasant surprises. Try a love note in your spouse’s briefcase, a post-it with a smiley face on the underside of the toilet seat, a flower, plant, card or balloon for no reason, or an unexpected gentle pat on the rear, a hug or a kiss to say “I’m thinking good thoughts about you, and I love you.”

6. Ramp up the sweetness. Married life has its unavoidable stresses and strains. To keep things in balance, we need to put a bit of energy into increasing the sweetness between us. Thoughtfulness, “thank you’s” and gestures of politeness and affection are the WD-40 of your marriage. Keep things running smoothly by remembering to add a spritz of sweetness frequently.

7. Devote time to your marriage. No matter how crazed you are with work, kids and bills, it’s essential to put aside regular time each week for the marriage. Have a “date night” which includes a “state of the union” discussion (include the positive things going on) or take a pleasant walk or drive. Keeping connected means things don’t build up to fighting status, and you’ll remember how good you are together. Don’t forget to celebrate and appreciate each other. Motivation comes from celebration and appreciation.

8. Focus on Partnership. Remember that first and foremost, before anything else, you’re partners. Keep that in mind and check frequently to make sure you’re acting like partners, and not competitors or avoiders. You’re in this thing together, and partnership is what it’s all about.

9. Reminisce about Good Times. “Remember when....” is a great start to a loving conversation. It creates so much good feeling to remember how you were when you were dating, when you got married, when you first bought your house, when you had your first child, when you got that promotion. Reminding yourselves of your solid history together is a way to increase your bond.

10. Brag to friends in your mate’s hearing. Of course, tell your mate to his or her face how much you care, but also be sure to tell your friends, while your mate is around, what a great guy or gal you married. “Harold is so thoughtful. Today he helped me around the house.” Or “Sue is such a great mom. She really gives the kids a sense that they’re loved and she still keeps them toeing the mark.” Or, “Did you hear? Fred got a big promotion. I’m so proud of him.” Or, “I don’t know what I’d do without Judy. She’s so great with money.” Or “Doesn’t my sweetie look great today? I’m so lucky.” Don’t worry if your partner looks embarrassed. He or she will also be pleased, and remember your brag for a long time.
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Law of Attraction in Action: Easing Your Way to Joy

This is my fourth post in my series on the Law of Attraction, inspired by watching Louise Hay’s You Can Heal Your Life, the movie, expanded version. I learned about the Law of Attraction from her books and was re-inspired by watching the DVD with so many great guests. There will be a new post related to this each Monday.

Lately I’ve heard many people complain that life is a struggle, they have to work so hard that it’s hurting them and they’ve lost their pleasure. While I spend a lot of time writing and doing what I have to do, I always make time for me. Sometimes when I’m in overdrive and feeling too much pressure, I step back and remind myself that:

God doesn’t want us to put our health in jeopardy or make ourselves miserable in the pursuit of what we want.

That’s when I pull back, take some breaths and relax. Then I make a new game plan, one that includes my well-bring. When your faith is strong, it’s not necessary to struggle or kill yourself working. That doesn’t mean you don’t have to work hard. You do. Since you get support for what you put out, you get support for what you do. The Law of Attraction supports your efforts, positive or negative.

Put out your life as a struggle, it will continue to be a struggle. Show that you’re willing to work hard for what you want in a reasonable way, and you’ll have a much better chance of getting there. Add faith to the mix and you have the recipe for success! There is a middle ground between struggling and sitting around praying for something to happen.

Relax but work hard, knowing that you have the support you need!

One of my favorite spiritual tool givers, Abraham Hicks, said, "You cannot struggle to joy. Struggle and joy are not on the same channel. You joy your way to joy! You laugh your way to success. It is through your joy that good things come." He is so right! Enjoying the path to your goals attracts the joy of achieving them.

I have no day job. Many people envy me but I explain that most couldn’t live the way I do. Having no guaranteed source of income would be too scary. When I’m beginning a new book, I have no idea about what kind of deal I’ll get and for how big an advance. Counseling/consulting clients come and go, as do speaking gigs and people who want help with their books. Yet I live in a large, one bedroom apartment in one of the nicest sections of midtown Manhattan!

Friends have actually tried to worry for me, when work isn’t on the horizon. They’ve questioned my refusal to touch my savings when my checking account was empty as I smiled and reassured them that the money would come. Now they’ve learned that my situation is never about IF I’ll get enough money each money, but about WHERE it will come from.

Faith always helps me pay my bills! I always have enough money for whatever I need.

Worrying about where your money comes from shows a lack of faith. So does fear, and having a mentality of being in a struggle to survive. If money gets tight, I look up, say thanks for the income coming my way, and work hard to manifest. But I never make getting it a struggle. I know that God wants me to be relaxed and happy. So I do what I can, without pushing the boundaries between working hard and working too hard. I have such strong faith that everything will always work out and money will come, that it always does!

Faith allows you to KNOW what you need is coming. The more you KNOW, the more the Law of Attraction helps it to happen.

Work your way to this point slowly, by testing faith in action. The more it works, the more you’ll use it. Next time you feel like you’re in a struggle, whether it’s to have enough money, do something to make more money, launch a business, decide whether you should leave a romantic partner who’s not making you happy, maintain self-imposed obligations, etc.:

* Take some deep breaths. Calm yourself down so you can think more rationally and feel better at the same time. The more you relax, the more relaxation will come!

* Remind yourself you shouldn’t be struggling so hard, unless you want to keep struggling. It’s never necessary to struggle in order to reach your goals. Work hard, yes. Struggle—no! Affirm, “I can calmly get what I need.”

* Ask the Universe for guidance and support. Then keep your eyes open for opportunities or ways to bypass what you’ve been struggling with.

* Change your attitude to one of expectation. When you expect to get what you’re working for, you get support in that. Affirm, “I intend to get what I need in a relaxed and joyful way.”

* Look up and give thanks for what you intend to receive, as if you have it already. Do it as many times as you can. The more you give thanks for what you expect to receive, the stronger the Law of Attraction becomes.

Someone I know who posts on a board I participate in has been trying to sell a small business she built up. She’s had 8 offers that all fell through and says she’d struggling to sell it. Each time an offer gets close, she talks about how tough it’s been since none of the deals work out. They’re almost at closing and something happens to foil it. She just got another one and began by saying she hopes this doesn’t go like the others. I emailed her and suggested she focus on just giving thanks for the deal going through, instead of the struggle she’d had trying to sell it. She wrote back that she’d give thanks in a few weeks IF it happens.

That mind-set reinforces doubt and her constant rehashing of deals gone bad is what the Law of Attraction picks up on. I replied that she’d get the deal if she gave thanks for it now.

Whenever you feel in struggle mode, think about what would make you happy. Focus on that and how you can get there, without it being a tough journey. When you get to the place I’m in, your faith will allow you to relax and work hard in the joy of knowing you’ll have what you need. It truly is a lovely place to be! Please join me! ☺ Put the Law of Attraction to work for your better good!

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Running with Electronics

Exercise is touted as one of the best stress relievers. Every article I read has exercise as one of the top recommended outlets to help yourself relax. I run in Central Park 3-4 days a week and it does help me. I get away from work and pressures in my life for a while. But more and more I’ve been wondering:

Why are more and more folks running with electronic devices that aren’t for playing music??

I just don’t get it. People are more stressed than ever. Prescriptions for anti-anxiety drugs are increasing. Yet cell phones and Blackberries and iPhones, etc. are becoming like an extra limb on people. Today I really paid attention and was honestly shocked at seeing person after person run by me in the other direction carrying some electronic device in their hands. I carry a bottle of water! They’re strapped in little cases on their running shorts or poking out of a pocket.

So instead of leaving stress at home for a while, many people bring it with them to run!

It really annoys me. All I have with me is my water and a washcloth to mop my face. While what others do may not seem to be my business, it does affect me. I love a relaxing run. Since I’m an energy person, I can feel how wired many of these electronic runners are. Seeing someone running towards me with a handheld device reminds me of work. It feels unnatural on the running path.

But then there are the exercisers who actually use the devices on the path!

A biker almost sideswiped me when he got lost in a conversation on his phone. He didn’t even use a headset and started swerving as one hand steered while he didn’t miss a beat on the phone. Many on foot talk on the phone. It’s distracting, as they tend to speak louder than if they were talking in person. It also gets confusing if they come up from behind me and I think they’re asking me something. Grrrrr…… Can’t people just run and talk later??!

Then there are the texters. Those are the worst as they look down at the keypad instead of watching where they’re going.

I see them coming towards me. Heads down. Attention on texting, not on looking to see if they might get in someone’s way. I’ve had to do a quick sidestep to avoid bumping into someone who had no idea they were coming toward me. Most are power walking fast. Occasionally someone is running. A lot of stress must be generated by trying to focus on the phone or text pad while doing exercise!

Okay, I admit that I’m very bah humbug about how some people have become obsessed with answering their phones or texting at all times and at almost all costs. The biggest cost can be your health. Everyone needs downtime to refresh your body and soul. If you’re one of these people, reassess your priorities. Everyone needs a real break.

Decide: what’s more important, taking a call or sending a message immediately, all the time, or your own well-being?

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The Law of Attraction in Action: Kindness

This is my third start the week post in my series on the Law of Attraction that was inspired by watching Louise Hay’s You Can Heal Your Life, the movie, expanded version. I learned about the Law of Attraction from her books and was re-inspired by watching the DVD with so many great guests.

We all have the power to heal our lives. You influence what happens to you each moment. When you stay conscious of your actions and thoughts, you can guide your path to more goodies.

But, the best way to attract good stuff is to make doing good stuff a lifestyle.

My next book, Nice Girls Can Finish First disputes the belief that nice guys finish last. But I’m talking REAL NICE, not doing things for others so they’ll like you or to get something in return. Giving unconditional love and kindness reaps the most rewards!

When I lived in DoorMatville, I thought I was nice, but I wasn’t. I desperately needed to be liked and did things for others, often at the expense of my time, money or other things I couldn’t afford. Having people around me and being “liked” by everyone was worth sacrificing my own needs! I stifled the reality that people were with me because I bought them. Deep down, I still felt lonely, since I knew there were few people I could truly count on.

Fast forward to today: I still like to help people when I can but it’s to be kind, not to barter for something.

The Law of Attraction is always on. It doesn’t just work when you do or think something special. When I was a DoorMat, I attracted more situations that helped me continue to be a DoorMat. Today, being a kind person attracts real kindness to me. I’m not kind for reciprocation. When you’re kind, you may not get a reward for it instantly. But it does come back to you, especially if you’re aware enough to recognize when it does.

A few weeks ago, I stopped into Au Bon Pain, one of my favorite places to grab a quick bite or cup of their awesome hazelnut coffee. An elderly lady with a walker was struggling to reach the coffee and asked if I’d help her. I was happy to. So I filled her cup, put in the milk, walked her to the cashier and then to a table. To me it was no big deal—a few minutes of time to do what seemed like just common courtesy to a senior. I felt good helping and she was grateful—a win/win in my book!

So I was surprised when the manager gave me a half price employee discount to thank me for helping the lady. Instant Law of Attraction result!

I was in the same Au Bon Pain on Saturday. Surprisingly, there was another senior in need of help. Once again I provided assistance—a mere 2 minutes of time to be kind. When I got to the register, I joked with the same manager that I seem to come in when seniors have problems. He remembered me and profusely thanked me for being kind, and, said my purchase was on him. He appreciated my reaching out to help and wanted to show his gratitude.

The Law of Attractions doesn’t always work so fast. It is fun when it does.

This was a strong reminder of how REAL kindness attracts more kindness. Some people encourage practicing “random acts of kindness.” To me that means being kind to others when you can, without expecting something in return. For me the act of kindness is reward enough. I enjoy knowing that I’ve helped someone when possible. I did greatly appreciate the bonus I got at Au Bon Pain. It’s nice to see that others appreciate kindness. But I did it without knowing what I’d receive.

Keep your eyes open for at least the next day and see if you can find a way to be kind to someone, just because.

Take pleasure in knowing you’ve made someone’s day a little brighter. It truly will come back to you, often in ways you least expect, like it did for me. The more good you put out, the more good you’ll receive. That’s how the Law of Attraction works!

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